- Asking a favor of someone
- Resisting sales pressure
- Telling a person I am intimately involved with that he/she has said or done something that bothers me
- Admitting ignorance in an area being discussed
- Turning down a friends request to borrow money
- Turning off a talkative friend
- Asking for constructive criticism
- Asking for clarification when I am confused about what someone has said
- Asking whether I have offended someone
- Requesting expected service when it hasn't been offered (e.g. in a restaurant)
- Expressing an opinion that differs from that of a person I am talking with
- Telling someone how I feel if he/she has done something that is unfair to me
- Turning down a social invitation from someone I don't particularly like
- Resisting an unfair demand from a person who is important to me
- Requesting a return of borrowed items
- Telling a friend or co-worker when he/she says or does something that bothers me
- Asking a person who is annoying me in a public situation to stop (e.g. smoking on a bus)
- Criticizing a friend
- Criticizing my spouse
- Asking someone for help or advice
- Expressing my love to someone
- Asking to borrow something
- Giving my opinion when a group is discussing an important matter
- Taking a definite stand on a controversial issue
- When two friends are arguing, supporting the one I agree with
- Expressing my opinion to someone I don't know very well
- Interrupting someone to ask him/her to repeat something I didn't hear clearly
- Contradicting someone when I think I might hurt him/her by doing so
- Telling someone that he/she has disappointed me or let me down
- Asking someone to leave me alone
- Telling a friend or co-worker that he/she has done a good job
- Telling someone he/she has made a good point in a discussion
- Telling someone I have enjoyed talking with him/her
- Complimenting someone on his/her skill or creativity
Are any of these hard for you guys?
3 comments:
Pretty much most of them are hard for me, but I'm getting better :)
Um was that list written for me? I have gotten better at some things...and I don't think Randy likes it. ;)
That is quite the list. I think some are easier than others. My trial has been learning how to say it nicely when I finally do get the nerve to speak up. Sometimes it just spills out and it is a little too blunt. I have to say I am getting better as I am getting older. Especially when I complain to a store or service, my favorite line, in a very pleasant voice is, "I'm sorry, that is unacceptable." Then a big pause for them to figure out how they are going to make it acceptable for me. :-)
But when it comes to family members who hurt my feelings, I usually walk away and avoid the whole situation. I do that most of the time with confrontation unless I think it is worth sticking up for. It takes a lot, let me tell ya.
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