That's what they tell me anyway. They tell me that I will look back fondly on these days. But if you were to ask me now, I would say...
I DON'T THINK SO!!!I have longer periods of time between blogs when things are hard. You know, sometimes you just think that it can't get harder. I remember thinking I couldn't be busier like 10 years ago. Boy was I wrong. I think I actually let those words leave my mouth a few times talking to people. So, maybe I am being cursed... I don't know.
I feel so behind
all the time. The projects that need to be done, the kids that need to be attended to, the chores to figure out, the dishes to wash, the soccer games to go to, the books to read, the homework to check, the bike tires to pump, the clothes to mend, the carpet to vacuum, the dog to feed, the callings to magnify, the laundry to fold, the kids to bathe, the peaches to can, the scriptures to read, the garden to weed.
I pictured myself years ago, six or more kids in tow, smiling, in my minivan. I never expected an immaculate house, but I wanted it clean. I never expected to not get my laundry put away before it needed to be done again. I didn't expect kids to grow out of the clothes that needed to have buttons sewn back on them before I could get around to sewing them. I couldn't possibly have imagined the piles of papers that I go through trying to figure out what to keep and what to toss while new piles are forming. What did I expect? I am not sure. But it
know it wasn't this.
I have never been so busy in my entire life. I have never thought I could be so busy and have so many rolls to play. I didn't think I would put myself in a situation where tasks could just not be completed day after day. To have a teething (his first tooth just broke through today... yeah!) crying baby that has just totally thrown up on you (like totally down your front and into those dark places where it can squish around and ferment) and is peeing through his diaper at the same time your 4 year old is crying wearing mostly underwear with his pants hanging around his ankles because he doesn't want to take his shoes off, at the same time your 12 year old wants you to take him to get a book at Walmart, at the same time that another kid is asking for chocolate soy milk (where did
that come from?), while finding a
huge spider (like bigger than the bottom of a quart jar huge) out in the garage to catch, and have rain falling inside the suburban because the windows are down. My husband has been gone for 14 hours so far today and I am still on my own, I am
so overwhelmed. I think overwhelmed is what I have been feeling so much of this last week. I have day after day where my schedule is completely backed one thing after another from morning to night and I just get exhausted!
I keep wondering why Heavenly Father can't make things a little easier for us. I don't like talking about this very often, but it has now been over a year since Ryan started looking for a job. Last year at this time, I was pregnant and we knew the additional stress another kid would place on our already tight budget, especially when we found out that American Express was cutting back so much on its benefits. I prayed and prayed asking Heavenly Father to bless us in this way for so long now. We have struggled through the schooling, done all we could do to enable Ryan to make enough money for our needs and it just has not been Heavenly Father's will. So, we continue to struggle far beyond what I thought we would have to. And as I have questioned and wondered why we have had things so difficult, the thought came to me that it is
for my experience.
DANG that experience!
So I wonder to myself... could it be that I will someday be in a place where some poor woman will be struggling with her six young kids that drive her crazy and she feels
so so so overwhelmed and I will be able to say-
"I understand", and I really will understand?
Could it be possible that the Lord will put me in a place where there are other struggling mothers trying to do everything they can and feel like it is just not enough and I will
truly know how they feel?
Will I eventually be somewhere where someone will need additional compassion and understanding?
I guess maybe.
And maybe it is just all for my own experience and good.
It doesn't feel good. And it is hard to be patient and have faith that the Lord is taking care of you. Does he realize that 5 of my kids need long pants for the winter, and a few need new coats and shoes? Does he see that my car will need new tires before the first snow? Does he realize that as much as I try there never seems to be enough money for everything?
I know I have running water and a floor and that is more than most of the population of the world. I am so lucky I have a car that holds all 8 of us. Ryan has a truck to do his piano moves in. We have a house, we have good food, and of course, we have each other. I realize there are many many people way worse off than us. But it can still be hard sometimes. And I still feel like complaining occasionally. Then I get it out of my system take a deep breath and get ready to climb to the next mountain peak. I'm not supposed to get anything more than I can handle after all,
right? I must be tougher than I realize.
They say I will miss all of this. They say it will all fly by and I will wish for it all over again.
I'm counting on it!